Get Your Ex Back With Better Communication
A lack of communication causes many break ups to occur. Not talking, not listening, not sharing about things important to the both of you can strangle the intimacy. People often end relationships because of bad communication.
If bad communication was a cause of your relationship ending, take heart. There are some things you can do to get your ex back. Basically, you need to show that you've learned and that you can be a good listener and a good communicator.
Being a good communicator isn't hard. One way to begin is to call your ex and open up to them. Tell them how not being with them makes you feel. Tell them what it feels like to you in your heart to be without them. Be open and vulnerable. This can open up their heart to you.
Then, demonstrate to your ex that you are a good listener. Focus on getting them to open up and talk to you. You might inquire: "how do you feel about how I treated you when we were together?"
One way to be a good listener is to be quiet. So ask a question then shut up. Be okay with some silence. Let your ex take all the time they want to consider their feelings and start to share them with you.
Aim to be a good listener and make your ex feel heard and understood. Say things like "I'm following you, please continue..." Then your ex may really open up, which can be crucial to getting them back with you.
Another listening skill is to not argue or defend yourself. Let them vent. Don't interrupt, don't justify, don't try to explain you really didn't mean it. All of that will shut your ex down. All of that will prove that you are not good at communication, which is a perception you are trying to reverse. Just listen til they are done then apologize after they are finished.
There's more to it, but just these few pointers are a great start. If your ex feels you are becoming a good listener, they may see you in a new light. This can open up their heart and make room for them to reconsider being with you.
If bad communication was a cause of your relationship ending, take heart. There are some things you can do to get your ex back. Basically, you need to show that you've learned and that you can be a good listener and a good communicator.
Being a good communicator isn't hard. One way to begin is to call your ex and open up to them. Tell them how not being with them makes you feel. Tell them what it feels like to you in your heart to be without them. Be open and vulnerable. This can open up their heart to you.
Then, demonstrate to your ex that you are a good listener. Focus on getting them to open up and talk to you. You might inquire: "how do you feel about how I treated you when we were together?"
One way to be a good listener is to be quiet. So ask a question then shut up. Be okay with some silence. Let your ex take all the time they want to consider their feelings and start to share them with you.
Aim to be a good listener and make your ex feel heard and understood. Say things like "I'm following you, please continue..." Then your ex may really open up, which can be crucial to getting them back with you.
Another listening skill is to not argue or defend yourself. Let them vent. Don't interrupt, don't justify, don't try to explain you really didn't mean it. All of that will shut your ex down. All of that will prove that you are not good at communication, which is a perception you are trying to reverse. Just listen til they are done then apologize after they are finished.
There's more to it, but just these few pointers are a great start. If your ex feels you are becoming a good listener, they may see you in a new light. This can open up their heart and make room for them to reconsider being with you.
About the Author:
You can learn more about the Immediate Reconnect Strategies to get your ex back in a course about Get Your Ex Back In Hours. Joanie S Angel teaches relationship and emotional intelligence courses and you can get the free course 7 Vital Relationship Insights You Never Learned In School here at Love Relationship Advice .
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