Why You Should Give Marriage A Pass
Oh, how many little girls and boys grow up dreaming of their wedding day? Okay, maybe the little boys (and some of the saucier little girls) grow up dreaming of their wedding night but you get the idea. But, alas, like most things from the days of yore, getting hitched just isn't what it used to be. In the modern age, people are looking at old traditions with new eyes and for once, deciding what to do with their lives based on what actually makes sense to them, as opposed to just doing things how they've always been done. One of the institutions to start to take a big hit is marriage.
Me? Just give me the presents and the honeymoon; I couldn't care less about the legalities. I'm not alone, and here's why.
Divorce costs in terms of money and emotions. With the divorce rate being what it is, a lot of people don't want to go through it a second time. Those that have never been married think they're better off just skipping the whole marriage mess to begin with.
People change their minds. It may be fickle, but it's a reality. More and more people acknowledge that their preferences will change and they see no point in legally committing to one person for the rest of their lives. They know themselves well enough to realize that they will change their minds at some point.
The law is slowly catching on to the fact that not everyone wants to be legally married. However, many unmarried people have children and the share property. As such they feel they should have the same legal rights as those who are legally married. Laws across the US are not uniform, so be sure you check out the laws in your state if you decide to give marriage a pass.
The idea of being ceremoniously passed from one man to another is also going the way of the dodo. We live in a time where we have choices. Increasingly we are favoring choices that respect our autonomy and independence. That includes not taking another man's last name.
Keeping a relationship genuine doesn't require a piece of paper. That doesn't mean that married couples aren't sincerely devoted to each other, however, I've had more than a few unmarried couples tell me that they think people who need to make their relationship all legal and official are really just looking for a security blanket to cover their own insecurities about the relationship.
The bottom line used to be that we got married to have sex and have babies. These days we have almost unlimited options about who we have sex with and when we have it. Marriage is no longer required for procreation either; it's a function of biology, not the law or tradition.
Times have proven that getting married and having kids is not the only option. Thankfully we're more open minded and flexible when it comes to coupledom and the legalities that go along with it. We're adapting and finding the situation that suits us best.
Me? Just give me the presents and the honeymoon; I couldn't care less about the legalities. I'm not alone, and here's why.
Divorce costs in terms of money and emotions. With the divorce rate being what it is, a lot of people don't want to go through it a second time. Those that have never been married think they're better off just skipping the whole marriage mess to begin with.
People change their minds. It may be fickle, but it's a reality. More and more people acknowledge that their preferences will change and they see no point in legally committing to one person for the rest of their lives. They know themselves well enough to realize that they will change their minds at some point.
The law is slowly catching on to the fact that not everyone wants to be legally married. However, many unmarried people have children and the share property. As such they feel they should have the same legal rights as those who are legally married. Laws across the US are not uniform, so be sure you check out the laws in your state if you decide to give marriage a pass.
The idea of being ceremoniously passed from one man to another is also going the way of the dodo. We live in a time where we have choices. Increasingly we are favoring choices that respect our autonomy and independence. That includes not taking another man's last name.
Keeping a relationship genuine doesn't require a piece of paper. That doesn't mean that married couples aren't sincerely devoted to each other, however, I've had more than a few unmarried couples tell me that they think people who need to make their relationship all legal and official are really just looking for a security blanket to cover their own insecurities about the relationship.
The bottom line used to be that we got married to have sex and have babies. These days we have almost unlimited options about who we have sex with and when we have it. Marriage is no longer required for procreation either; it's a function of biology, not the law or tradition.
Times have proven that getting married and having kids is not the only option. Thankfully we're more open minded and flexible when it comes to coupledom and the legalities that go along with it. We're adapting and finding the situation that suits us best.
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